In fact, one particular email that is long (over 150 words), expresses interest, draws commonalities (it’s always customized), demonstrates humor as well as a sense of ambition and adventure received a 9.7% response rate from women in their 20s, a 20.5% response rate from 30-somethings, and a 50.3% from women 40 and above.
This email, according to Scott, was sent to over a thousand women of different ages, so it’s pretty clear, based on these numbers alone, that a one-size-fits-all approach to online dating is a bad one.
You can then use their input to select your ‘primary photo’ and two to six additional shots.
As Scott Valdez puts it, "Online, you're only as good as your worst photo." Messages : According to Scott Valdez at Vi DA, if you email someone who was last active one to three weeks ago then your response rate will be 60% lower than if you message one that’s ‘online now’.
And good luck getting responses from those who haven’t accessed their profile in more than three weeks; here your response rate plummets to almost 0%.
Vi DA is an online dating management agency that uses data -- both internal and external -- to ensure efficient use of online dating sites for its clients.
Internally, the company tracks 19 variables related to every first message they send out on behalf of their clients.
Data collected by Virtual Dating Assistants revealed that while women of all ages respond well to humor, women in their early 30s and above responded well to longer, more thoughtful emails that expressed genuine interest.
Women in their 20s rejected these more serious emails, preferring even some slight cockiness - or what some dating coaches call the “Cocky & Funny” approach.
The authors of “Freakonomics” discovered that 56% of men that create an online dating profile do not even get one single message while Jupiter Research found that 97% quit within 3 months.
Scott Valdez, Founder and President of Virtual Dating Assistants (Vi DA Virtual Dating Assistants.com) advises that informed decisions yield better results.
Ok Cupid CEO, Sam Yagan, guesses the reason that guys who look at the camera get less messages than those who don’t is because it’s intimidating to women.