The typical 28 year-old women sends a small but significant number of messages to men too young to drink. In any event, here’s what happens when we synthesize .
Move the slider to the right, toward middle age, and you can watch the pool of dating possibilities gather, crest, then drain away.
Ultimately, I’ll argue that they would be well-served to expand their search upwards, to women in their thirties and forties.
I hesitated beginning my case for older women with something about their sexuality, like I did in Exhibit A, because that territory borders right on cougar country.
But the evidence there was too compelling to ignore.
At the graph’s outer edge, at age 48, men are nearly twice as sought-after as women.
Here’s the data: A woman’s desirability peaks at 21, which, ironically enough is the age that men just begin their “prime,” i.e. Following that dotted line out, you can see that a woman of 31 is already “past her prime,” while a man doesn’t become so until 36.
It’s no secret that dating changes radically as you get older.
As you can see below, the number of online daters peaks at 24, drops sharply at around 30, and then gradually tapers off, as the remaining singletons either find mates or withdraw themselves from contention: The bar chart here shows how the woman to man ratio changes over time. In a better world, this would imply that older people don’t necessarily have a harder time finding decent mates than younger ones, as the composition of the dating pool holds relatively steady from age to age.So you can see how differently women think about dating and age, here are the corresponding charts for them: Except in their early to mid-twenties, when they apparently want nothing to do with younger guys (i.e. ), women show an admirable openness to both reasonably younger and reasonably older men.Notice also how a woman’s actual messaging activity, shown in the heat map below, is roughly centered on her own age (as illustrated by the dotted “age parity” line). These color discontinuities indicate dramatic changes in a woman’s dating mentality: when a women turns 20 she decides it’s okay to message significantly older men (i.e.the upper reaches of the chart suddenly become less red).At 29, a woman becomes even open to older men and, in addition, stops writing the youngest ones.So that’s the lay of the land, and now I’d like to say why I think it could be different.