My husband is a great father and has always been very hands-on with the children who really love him and I don’t want to end up separated.
Such intimacy is built on communication and friendship and leads to deep affection and a satisfying sex life.
However, creating this intimacy is hard work and much harder than the easy escapism of the internet or watching TV or even over-working or domestic chores.
To continue with this process you may wish to seek marriage counselling ( relationshipsireland.com, accord.ie).
There is a good chance of success for the two of you, if your husband accepts responsibility for what he has done and if the two of you are willing to work hard on improving your marriage.
There is a big difference between a person occasionally viewing pornography with the knowledge and even involvement of their partner to a full-blown betrayal and using adult websites to start affairs with other people.
Like many problems, it can start innocently at first, with a person visiting sexually titillating sites perhaps out of boredom or a seeking escapism but then it can escalate to other behaviours, such as directly communicating with other people online and over time can become addictive and harmful.
On top of the jealousy that can arise and the deep pains of missing someone you care about, living apart can make physical intimacy, well, impossible.
Lucky for us, the year is 2017, and the communication options for long-distance couples have come a long way from hand-written love letters (although that's still not a bad idea).
Also, considering the horrible prevalence of revenge porn, it's important to know that you shouldn't do anything you're not 100% comfortable with (like showing your face or getting completely nude).