Ok Cupid found that making eye contact with the camera is effective with some facial expressions, but less so with others. Making a 'flirty face' without eye contact.Women who look directly at the camera while making flirty faces or smiling tend to get more messages than those who smile or look flirty without eye contact.
If you don't want to spend any money, free sites like Plentyof and are good places to start, but beware that these sites have a lot of ads.
If you're interested in lots of choices, consider mainstream sites like and e which have huge memberships in all demographics.
I didn't have to read beyond her opening sentence -- "I like the library! All the exclamation points in the world couldn't save that line. But surely there's a juicier way to bring up your literary fetish. I've studied strangers on the Web and friends at my kitchen table, and here's what I've learned: Let's review -- the key to this whole online profile thing is really quite simple: Be direct while maintaining an air of mystery; be modest while flaunting what you've got; be flexible while explaining what you need, while keeping it brief and making it flirty and not getting cute; and be yourself, only more so, only not so much more so that you exaggerate, intimidate, or irritate.
I know it sounds like a tall order, but if the prune can do it, so can you.
If you want to be extra cautious, you can do a quick background check on your date for a few dollars at sites like and
Don't be naive: In an effort to get more responses, many people will exaggerate or flat out lie in their profiles, or post pictures that are 10 years old or 20 pounds lighter. Make an effort: A lot of times, people -- especially women -- sit back and let others come to them. When you find someone you like, send a short note that says, "I really enjoyed your profile.No one gets access to your full name, address, phone number or email until you decide to give it out.So be very prudent who you give your information to, and before meeting, chat on the phone a few times or video chat online, and when you do meet in person for the first time, meet in a public place or bring a friend along.I think we have some things in common." Keep it simple.Don't get discouraged: If you don't get a response from someone, don't let it bother you. There are many others that will be interested in you and it only takes one person to make Internet dating worthwhile.I've got a number of brilliant, beautiful, frank, funny friends, all capable of remarkable things, but writing an enticing online profile does not seem to be one of them. Some people offer their services in soup kitchens, some volunteer to shampoo crude oil off of sad, gooey pelicans; I rewrite online dating profiles.