As they sit across the table from a woman, most guys are busy planning, worrying about what to say and do next or worse — just not being interested. Until a man is confident and comfortable enough to be totally “present,” he’ll never connect with a woman in the moment, let alone for the future. It will be painfully obvious that he’s not hearing or caring about what she has to say. I know what you’re thinking…and you’re totally wrong.
Of course, thoughtfulness means delivering attention and interest…but in heartfelt ways that she can’t predict, at the times she needs it most.
Basically, instead of being over the top with flashy gifts, expensive dinners, and obvious compliments, true thoughtfulness is telling her that you were thinking of her today when she wasn’t around(by the way…
That in mind, here come the three secret “tests” that every woman uses (even if she doesn’t realize it) to determine whether you are boyfriend material: Test #1: Are You Present?
When it comes to first dates, most guys waste precious time and opportunities with great women by not actually “being there” at all.
Read, learn, apply—and failing all that, consider sending him that note.
When Michael Lockwood was a single divorced dad, he'd often write down dating advice that he planned to give to his daughters when they grew up.
going too far in one direction or another in what they say and do.
For example, I always say that confidence and humor go a long way toward succeeding with women, but too many guys act like a “jerk,” coming across as unfunny, insulting or arrogant.
Check yes or no." But out in the adult world, dating men can be much less clear-cut.