If he knew something bothered me or caused me pain, he wouldn’t do it, that simple.In the bedoin culture men are often viewed as superior to women (by outsiders), but it’s not that way.I experience things in Kuwait I doubt many other Americans do… I wish I could say my life resembles every Westerner married to an Arab but I know that’s not the case.
Having a husband like this has taught me to want very little as it’s far more important to me that he lives a stress free life and never goes without anything. I don’t have to ask his ‘permission’ to do anything, nor does he ask mine.
But out of respect for one another we ensure the other is always comfortable.
In his culture men have an obligation to truly take care of their wives.
He’s responsible for all the bills and monthly obligations while providing me anything I want without hesitation — even if it means he goes without. My opinion matters and he always asks what I think or how I feel.
I was spoiled, wanted for nothing, and had everything. Then I married a man whose immediate family consists of 24 people. Family gatherings take place as often as daily since the entire family lives in very close proximity to one another.
Before meeting my husband he was feeling the Arabian pressure of ‘marriage’.Many people have asked me what it’s like being an American woman married to an Arab man.Some even ‘warned’ me before making the decision to get married.He’s actually more Westernized than many ‘city’ Arabs I know.His English is perfect, he’s been to America and fully understands our mentality, culture, and politics.For a woman to shed a tear and a man be the cause is shameful. Large family gatherings happened once a year during family reunion time and even that came to an abrupt halt when my grandparents died.