While lust is necessary it can become a problem if it is that you feel towards someone rather than part of the connection you have with them.
There are a lot of different physiological factors which determine whether we will find someone attractive – pheromones – the colourless, odourless chemical signals given off by the body; their mannerisms and whether they are in harmony with ours; the dilation of their pupils or the plumpness of their lips etc.
All of these things will play a part in whether we feel physically drawn to someone.
Lust often lays the foundation for a relationship to develop – it is the springboard from which love can grow.
Love needs to be present in order for a meaningful relationship to develop and last rather that a whirlwind romance that burns out quickly.
When dating, most people are looking for some chemistry or spark between them and their date – they want there to be a physical and chemical reaction that tells them that this person is a good match for them.
Someone may look perfect on paper but if there is no chemistry between them then it is unlikely that a relationship will develop.
If they are then combined with sparkling conversation, laughter, and shared interests you have an exciting, even intoxicating, combination.
When we do meet someone who we click with at this level is can be dramatic.
Lust has an important role to play in developing long-term, intimate relationships.
We need the physiological signs in order to move us into a sexual relationship with someone – it is nature’s way of ensuring the continuation of the species.
You might not agree on absolutely everything, but you feel like your opinion is respected and you respect theirs, too. You love the thought of your partner mingling around the dinner table with your family and laughing it up with your friends at a BBQ.