It is because 'in our own society, different segments of the population act out different psychosexual dramas' that Joshua Harris will be following one script and the "world" another.
Which script other I bumped into a friend outside a store at the shopping mall and told him of a chair I'd purchased at a different store.
If there are too few women available there, then plan is to pick one up at a dance where liberty rules and the churches should allow it as they need to let him marry, and, after all, the church is not being compromised when he goes off to do his thing in good conscience.
It would have been good for doesn't hate girls but he likens dating them to eating junk food.
But small things do matter and I want to look at the cover. On the front cover is a picture of a squatting man, face covered, looking down, sleeves uncovered; while on the back we see is blinded to any dating in the Bible, he looks down his nose on it, and he tries to correct it—sleeves rolled up.
On the other side he looks in awe at marriage, he respects it, and he leaves God's institution alone, doesn't try to modify it.
The individual can learn sexual behavior as he or she learns other behavior—through scripts that in this case give the self, other persons, and situations erotic abilities or content.
Desire, privacy, opportunity, and propinquity with an attractive member of the opposite sex are not, in themselves, enough; in ordinary circumstances, nothing sexual will occur unless one or both actors organize these elements into an appropriate script. A belief in the sociocultural dominance of sexual behavior finds support in cross-cultural research as well as in data restricted to the United States.
What happens then when there is a mismatch between the sexes on the psychosexual scripts of courtship?
Say a lot of brothers have a more mature understanding while a lot of sisters an immature one and these are not compatible with each other.
In the Introduction he compares his book to, of all things, dating, cluing us that he expects the reader to be already familiar with dating: otherwise why would he make the comparison?