Yet I did not want to compromise my self respect or settle for a spoiled overbearing Greek which tended to be my lot with most of the Greek men I met.
We have heard stories of so and so cheating on his wife for many years.
As a young girl I remember one of my father’s friends boasting,”I have had relations with hundreds of women.” I have stepped outside the Greek milieu and asked straight up Americans about what they thought of Greek men, “a–holes,” “proud” “immature”” shrewd” “good with money and business” but mostly arrogant immature “d—-“.
The stories of Greek heroes’ infidelity and hanky panky are the stuff of legend. Jason, married to Medea and whose charms without which he could not have survived, still betrayed her by marrying an Athenian princess, quite younger.
He knew full well that he was going against his vow that he would never cheat on her.
To be treated with respect and a fair division of the work in both sex roles are non negotiables in a marriage arrangement.
It pains me to see so many smart successful women who have so much going for them in their professions and social worlds compromise themselves in the most intimate of circles.Of course there are individual differences, but I feel that the “Greek man syndrome” a mix of pride, dominating stubbornness, unfaithfulness and disrespect towards females, has something to do with the way boys are socialized in Greek culture.The discrepancies between the ways a Greek girl and a Greek boy are huge and their respective socially sanctioned behaviors create a conflict in relationships.I have tried to replicate I them what I have hoped to accomplish in myself as a hyphenated American.I never wanted to “greekness” to fade away into a barf shade of grey.Same theme with Theseus, who according to both literary and historical record was an arrogant jerk.