The 'gold digger' stigma can also come into play, and suggests that people choose older partners solely for their money."It's a time-honored tradition in Hollywood for older men to date younger women, and cougar couples have become all the rage as well," the New York Daily News explained, in an introduction to a slideshow on the May-December relationship trope in the entertainment industry.To learn more about what these relationships are really like, ATTN: reached out to four people who have dated someone older than themselves via email about their experiences and relationship advice."Or that certainly he had ill-intentions, because why else would a man his age be interested in someone so young?
"Older [partners] are typically past the point of game-playing because they've hopefully already been in a serious relationship and have learned how to be vulnerable," says author and life coach Kali Rogers. So if that doesn't bother you — or it seems like a positive thing — it may make for the perfect partnership.
Rogers warns situations like these can erupt in jealousy, though, so make sure you're cool with exes and whatnot before jumping in.
Read on for some signs this is exactly what you need to do.
While dating someone older won't guarantee a lack of drama — since that's up for grabs at any age — it may increase your chances of finding a partner who can handle their emotions. Dating an older person often means being with someone who's already been married or had kids.
When your partner looks visibly older than you, people might get a little nasty.
Courtney Croft, a 26-year-old Nashville-based anthropologist married to a 40-year-old man, explained that while she and her partner didn't encounter too many problems in their personal lives, other people didn't always react well to their relationship."Most of the issues stemmed from other people's initial negative reactions of us being together. I had some people flat out say it was gross that I was with someone so much older," Croft said.
That was my experience from dating a much older man.
What began as a romantic adventure into unconventional love turned into a disaster I should have seen coming from waaaay over the hill. How old you actually are doesn't necessarily have a lot to do with your lifestyle.
If your life experience has caused you to grow up fast, then you might feel more comfortable with someone's who has been there, too.