I’m not saying he should adapt himself completely; it’s ultimately his choice.He might just not be compatible with the majority of Japanese girls.
Many people provided counter-examples in the comments.
My personal experience also tells me that dating in Japan is completely feasible and a lot of my friends seem to be doing OK with dating here.
He might be judging Japanese women based on his cultural values without taking into account the Japanese context.
Since he didn’t specify what made him think that girls of his age were childish I can only speculate, but if he doesn’t make effort to unlearn his cultural values and learn new sets of values, he is likely to continue having difficulty.
On my last page, I told him that it’s his story now and that there are still many white pages that can be filled.’ It might be obvious to many people but doing all this to a guy who is not interested (and possibly not used to dealing with girls) is not only ineffective but also counterproductive. If he was experienced in dating, he could have said something like, ‘I know that you are interested in me but I just don’t see you that way.
I appreciate that you are making an effort but I don’t think it’s going to work. ’ But there’s only so much you can expect from a Japanese computer science major boy. ‘Over three weeks later that he completely ignored the whole thing’, she writes. ‘All of my friends told me that this is just such a wonderful present that he has to fall in love with me’, she writes.
Because it was his birthday I decided to go for a final attack and made a personal present for him.’ Her strategy was ‘push, push and push’, which was obviously not working. ‘I bought an empty book and filled it with the story of my love for him.
How I fell in love with him and about all the things I like about him.
I have noticed that cute girls tend to be quite bad at approaching guys. She is studying computer science and surrounded by a lot of guys.