In this period the couple either falls in love with each other and decides to get married or understands they cannot get along with each other and break up.
Also, another custom that families talk about in ‘khastegari’ called as ‘Mehrieh’. After this meeting, if the families especially the boy and girl want to know each other more, a period starts we called ‘Namzadi’.
‘Mehrieh’ is an amount of money, usually a big money more than $100000 that if the couple divorced, the guy should give to his wife. In this period, the couple is officially in the relationship and try to know more each other.
The ways boys/girls in open-minded families start dating and meeting each other is more or less similar to here, US.
They meet each other in parties, friends’ groups, universities, etc.
During this ceremony, the guests and the couple dance together and have a lot of fun and usually the ceremony end up with a dinner. In this ceremony, the couple invites almost all of their families for the ceremony and guests give their valuable gifts to the couple.
The rest of the ceremony is pretty similar to the ‘Patakhti’ with a big difference that the ceremony is held in a big place.
‘Khastegari’ is a custom in which families of both girl and boy come to meet each other for the first time with or without knowing each other before and this time could be the first time the the boy and the girl meet each other.
In this meeting, families as well as the boy and the girl talk to each for about 4-5 hours to get to know each other.
The way that the couple celebrate their marriage is also highly dependent on their families.