Keep in mind before you ever say yes to that first date with a military man that there may be many times that you’ll be stood up at the last minute because “duty called” and your guy had to answer.It’s not quite as bad dating a man in the military reserves because he’ll be called to serve his country only after the active duty guys have gone.
If a woman can remain positive and eliminate worry from the inevitable, be that a favorable or unfavorable outcome, then she can learn to appreciate a genuine and courageous man.
If you consider yourself a woman who, if she found true love, would be willing to wait for her man while he was away and put up with unexpected challenges, a military man might be the perfect choice for you.
A nice little perk for military wives is the fact that they might get the chance to live in or at least visit other countries due to their husbands’ military status.
So while you may be spending more time alone than you’d like, you can always use that time in touring and getting to know new cultures. If you love someone enough, it won’t matter in the end.
There is that 2 weeks every year and 1 weekend a month that he’ll be performing his military duties, but that’s not all that bad.
It’s certainly no different than dating, for example, a truck driver, who is also gone for days at a time.
Among my friends, I’ve had girlfriends who want to hook them up with soldiers in my guy’s regiment, guyfriends who ask me if he’s going to kill them if they flirt with me, and even coworkers who, shall we say, were less than supportive of the military in general. So if your guy has committed himself to an serious relationship with you, he’s most likely going to stick to that commitment, and he expects you to do the same.
As a soldier’s girlfriend, you’ll have to field a lot of the same questions, and frequently clear up misnomers about the Army. Far too many of my soldier friends have had “Jodi” get their girl (you may want to look that up), and it’s especially hurtful to them.
That may be why most military men are never at a shortage of women to date.
However, if you’re one of the many women that are dating guys in the military, you’ve probably experienced the reality of what’s behind that sexy uniform.
My boyfriend is stationed an hour away, and we only see each other on weekends. So if you get the big invite to meet them, treat it as though you were meeting his family. Don’t drink to much, don’t discuss politics or religion. Your man’s showing you off to some of the most important people in his life; do him proud. Making friends with the guys who serve with my boyfriend made Army gatherings twice the fun. Yes, we all know that a man who takes charge is appealing.