Most people who say they’ve taken my advice have only taken a few pieces of my advice.
Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.
More unhappy couples are getting divorced when the kids leave the house. We also know that dating online does not mean that you’re not dating men you meet in real life. If you meet a guy through friends, at the market, at a concert, great.
It’s the built-in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.
I am a youthful, fit and free-spirited woman and to be honest, I’m not ready for the retired 65-70 year old guys.
It’s difficult to meet large numbers of men that way, but I’m starting to feel like my chance of making a non age-biased connection with a guy is only out in the real world.
And the real-world opportunities can be few and far between. I can’t disagree with anything you’ve observed about online dating and age. So here are the facts: Older men have more options than older women (online and in real life) because they can usually date somewhat younger.
I agree with everything Evan says and based on your advice Evan Ive tweaked my profile with your suggestions e.g. Most importantly I agree your photos have to be great.
I chose to adjust my age down a few years since I was being eliminated by what seems like half the men my age when I put my real age.
I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.
It’s as though moving from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life.
Now that we’ve established that online dating is a smart and necessary long-term strategy for women over 50, the question becomes, “What can you do better? Are you initiating contact with at least one man a day who states that he’s open to women your age?