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When developing your own policy, you should consider your own values and the results you want to achieve. It isn't a choice between forbidding any relationship at all or permitting any relationship at all.
In other words, instead of forbidding the date, require adding more people to the event, put restrictions on being paired off or alone, and encourage him to develop a wide variety of relationships.
There's something to be said for "dating" when it's still 99.9% innocent re: personal confidence about later more "real" relationships.
It doesn't sound like the kids are doing anything age-inappropriate, or inappropriate in general.
I think it takes a conscious effort to realize that teens have adult feelings even if they don't yet have an adult sense of responsibility and self-control.
I was having breakfast the other day with a friend who was giving dating advice to his son.
From what you've described, it doesn't sound much different --at this point --than when kindergarteners decide they are "boyfriend and girlfriend." It does sound, however, like this might be a good time to have "the talk" (about sex) if you haven't already, since he's moving quickly towards physical maturity.
(This piece of advice is completely independent of his relationship with this particular girl.) As far as "when can he date," I'd tell him when he can drive himself and his date to the movie, pay for dinner himself, and generally show evidence of being able to handle himself in a responsible manner without a parent.
Industrialization moved that age back, but our bodies don't know that.